PFLAG-National – Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) is a USA national non-profit organization with over 200,000 members and supporters and over 350 affiliates in the United States. This vast grassroots network is cultivated, resourced and serviced by the PFLAG National Office in Washington, D.C. (“the other Washington”) with a national Board of Directors and 13 Regional Directors. They have an interactive map of chapters on the website.

PFLAG National has a YouTube channel: PFLAG: A Journey of Love

Pacific Northwest PFLAG – a five state region including Alaska, Idaho, Montana, Oregon & Washington. The site has a list of state chapters with contact information and events. It also has vision & mission statements, military support, a list of books providing more information; internet resources listing general & youth websites, transgender websites, intersex websites & faith support websites.

The listserv allows PFLAG members in Washington State to communicate ideas and events through email which are important to all Washington PFLAG chapters. See

Also is a listserv for the region (Alaska, Idaho, Montana, Oregon & Washington). This is a moderated group, so all messages posted to the group will be approved by one of the region moderators before being mailed to the entire group. To join the group, send an email to .

safeschools4all-pflagnationalSafe Schools: Cultivating Respect

For too many of our children, attending school can be a frightening experience. As parents, families and friends we need to do something to make schools safer for our LGBT and all students. Please join PFLAG by advocating for strong national policies, learning the Top 10 Ways you can Make Schools Safer For All Students, hosting a PFLAG Cultivating Respect certification training in your community, or promoting our national scholarship program.

We each have an important role to play in fighting bullying and harassment, and everyone has a stake in the success of this work. See more on our national website here.

straightforequalityStraight for Equality is a PFLAG program about awareness and fairness.
You don’t need to march. You don’t need to shout a slogan. But you may be surprised by how effective small changes can be…

7 in 10 people have a gay relative or friend.
Find out how you can help support them and make your corner of the world just a little (or a lot) better.

Take the pledge!
This is an opportunity – and invitation – to change the world around you and help the gay, lesbian, bi, and transgender people in your life.

Sign the pledge and show your support for equality today.
Find out more – and sign the pledge at


For Parents, Guardians and Family Members of Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Two-Spirit, Transgender, Intersex or Questioning Youth – an excellent brochure composed in 2011 by Carolyn Wagner, past vice-president of PFLAG National, with input from many parents who have known and experienced the challenges and blessings of raising a child whose sexual orientation and/or gender identity is different from their parents, edited by Gabi Clayton.
Two versions – one to read online, one to download and print with room for your organization’s name and information on the back page.

Formatted for printing (134 KB pdf format)
Formatted for reading online
(113 KB pdf format)

School Climate Survey – a survey to give out to students at your school. Created by PFLAG-Olympia, inspired by GSA Network with our thanks! (pdf format)

School Climate Survey For Teachers, Staff & Personnel – a survey to give out to school teachers, administrators, staff and personnel, created by Gabi Clayton, inspired by GSA Network with our thanks! (pdf format)

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In July 2009 PFLAG-Olympia was chosen to participate in PFLAG National’s new diversity outreach pilot program, Tapestry! We put together a program on Bayard Rustin and Black History Month and this resource packet. (pdf format – may need to be downloaded to be seen properly)

The GLBTQ Trivia Game – We played this at our January 2008 meeting instead of having a program. Everyone learned some things, and it lead to some great discussion. The questions are from information we gathered in various places. We played it by having one person read the questions and we went around in a circle for answers, then if that person didn’t know we opened it up to others. After answer(s) were given the person reading the questions confirmed what was said or read the answer on the sheet.


Other Resources

Capital City PridePFLAG-Olympia_twostandingrainbowpeople2Olympia, Washington. Serving as the watershed event of the year, Pride Day marks the civil rights gains in the past year, show cases youth activists new to community work, and honors long time activists for their enduring commitments. On a more personal level, Pride Day is often a mixture of all the milestone events of life wrapped into one, becoming in a sense our Mardi Gras, our 4th of July parade, our biggest political rally, our homecoming, our community-wide ice cream social to bring our families to.

Cocoons – A group for lesbian women who were formerly or are still in heterosexual marriages. Meets on a monthly basis to socialize, share hopes and experiences and support each other while facing the challenges and issues in coping with life after coming out. Meets in Olympia.

COLAGE – a national movement of children, youth and adults with one or more lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and/or queer parents. We build community and work toward social justice through youth empowerment, leadership development, education, and advocacy. Offers chapters and events nationally, visibility tools and resources for schools and communities, Speak OUT national network of youth leaders, online communities and more. Seattle chapter here .

Gay & Lesbian National Hotline (GLNH) – Nationwide (USA), toll-free information, referral and peer-counseling line for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and questioning people of all ages. GLNH maintains a huge resource database with local listings for cities and towns all across the country including youth groups, support and social organizations, gay-friendly religious groups, sports groups, doctors, lawyers, counselors and more. They also provide direct-service peer-counseling by telephone if someone is going through a difficult time. Their services are free and confidential. The toll-free phone line 1-888-THE-GLNH is staffed Monday thru Friday from 1 to 9pm, and Saturdays from 9am to 2pm (Pacific time).

Gender Alliance of the South Sound (GASS) – Tacoma, WA – a support and social group for crossdressers, transsexuals and other transgendered individuals, serving Pierce, Thurston, Kitsap and King counties in Washington state – Tacoma, Olympia, Federal Way, Auburn, Kent, Puyallup, Bremerton, Sumner… or any of the other cities in the South Puget Sound region. G.A.S.S. meets regularly in downtown Tacoma, and is open to all individuals who wish to learn more about their own unique inner self, and to meet and mingle with others who are likewise on this voyage of discovery. We welcome anyone upon the vast transgender spectrum: crossdressers, transsexuals M-to-F and F-to-M), intersexed individuals, as well as spouses, significant others, friends and family.

LGBT Veterans Health Service – Lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender health care services. High quality, respectful, personalized care. All veterans welcome.For more information contact Katy McDermott, LGBT Veteran Care Coordintor, (206) 277-3233. Click here for informational brochure.

GLSEN Washington State  – an education organization creating safe schools for all lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people. GLSEN is the only national organization that brings together a wide variety of people who actively care about ending homophobia in the schools. Everyone (regardless of occupation or sexual orientation) is welcome to get involved with GLSEN.

Gender Odyssey Family– Seattle, WA – an annual conference for families who are working to navigate the day-to-day realities of raising a gender non-conforming or transgender child. As one of the only opportunities in the country to find valuable resources, information and networking opportunities, Gender Odyssey Family provides real tools to support and encourage your child’s gender self-discovery.

Generation LGBTQIA– New York Times article by Michael Schulman, published January 9, 2013 – ”If the gay-rights movement today seems to revolve around same-sex marriage, this generation is seeking something more radical: an upending of gender roles beyond the binary of male/female. The core question isn’t whom they love, but who they are – that is, identity as distinct from sexual orientation.”

pizzklatclogoPizza Klatch offers facilitated support for GLBTQ youth and their allies in Thurston County, Washington. The support is offered during high school lunch periods, with free pizza, to provide a convenient and safe forum for the discussion of topics important to these youths. Pizza Klatch is a grassroots collaboration between school counselors, faculty, and GSAs (Gay Straight Alliance clubs) from Timberline and North Thurston High Schools; therapists in the community (including an LICSW who consults and supervises all the facilitators every month); PIPE (Partners in Prevention Education); Stonewall Youth; and St. Benedict’s Episcopal Church.

Pride Foundation – a donor-supported community foundation which supports transformative philanthropy through programs and initiatives – scholarships, grants, advocacy, and community leadership – that help people find joy and strength. Through in Alaska, Idaho, Montana, Oregon, and Washington State, Pride Foundation donors and volunteers are helping transform our communities and culture.

Safe Olympia – Learn about the Olympia Police Department’s Safe Olympia Initiative to reduce hate crimes against our lesbian, gay, transgender and questioning visitors and residents.

Sound Alliance of Older LGBTQ+ (SAOL) (formerly known as SAGE Olympia) promotes the wellness of LGBTQ elders in the Thurston County area, with a range of services and activities. See them on their website here and on Facebook here.

southsoundqcalendarThe South Sound Q Calendar lists events of interest to the LGBTQ community and allies in the South Puget Sound region.

Stonewall Youth – Dedicated to providing peer support, information and advocacy for bisexual, gay and lesbian youth and youth who have questions about their orientation, age 21 and under – in Olympia, WA.